Joe Schaeffer's blog

The Pebble Game: A Metaphor

In only the time it takes to breathe I can listen to your words, your meanings, and then share my words, as meanings, with you. The experientially real words can come from the past, the present, or in anticipation of the future. Put another way, we can speak with each other rather than to each other.

The Pebble Game: A Metaphor

In only the time it takes to breathe I can listen to your words, your meanings, and then share my words, as meanings, with you. The experientially real words can come from the past, the present, or in anticipation of the future. Put another way, we can speak with each other rather than to each other.

How It Was and Yet Might Be

These models make sense in the objectified world of the dominator society. I act, you react, you act, I react, in an unending cycle, like automatic machines.This gives us a certain feeling of security, I suppose, in that as we speak and respond we gradually get to know what the facts are.

A Journey “In Community”

When she picked up the stone to hold for a while, she noticed it had an interesting, almost delicate structure. “It has six layers,” she said, “each smaller than the one beneath it.” It seemed to be shaped by unknown hands to symbolize circles of waves, ripples spreading from similar stones dropped into still waters.

From Domination to Partnership

How can we break these habits of domination? How can we journey from domination to partnership? We “inject reality into the dream” by living the qualities of character all the time.

Mutual Trust

In the rapidly changing world in which we live today, the question, “Can I trust you?” is almost impossible to answer. We rarely know each other long enough to earn or prove trust with each other.

The Individual in Society

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The expression of talents and abilities is vital in community. It is important for each of us to support and respect the talents and abilities we find in others.

Altruistic Love

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Altruism is an exceptionally powerful quality of character in living community. We see it, for example, in Mahatma Gandhi’s profoundly simple suggestion that we base our desire for material acquisitions on needs rather than wants.

Acknowledgment in "Real Life"

I was asked by a friend in the BC Ministry of Attorney General’s office if I would do conflict resolution with the key people on each side, 15 Sikhs and 15 non-Sikhs. I said, “No, but I will facilitate a workshop focused on community and creative communication.” The Ministry agreed and off we went.

Foundations of Deep Empathy

Deep empathy is not sympathy or even compassion. And it is not Emotional Intelligence. An individual feels neither for nor with another. She strives for something deeper.